What Does Zionism Mean to You?

I’m back with another anti-Israel dating fail. I won’t trouble y’all with the whole story, but I (29F, American ) went on a date and ended up crying half-way through.

After my date made an anti-Zionist comment that triggered my fight-or-flight response, I told her my parents and I were Zionists and that Zionism just meant Jewish self-determination in the land of Israel. She said she thinks Zionism means supporting the Israeli government and hating Palestinians and wanting to kill them and take their land. When I told her that her take on Zionism was wrong, she basically said, “Well, you have to understand the context of the Zionist government being very loud and aggressive about killing Palestinians, so that’s what zionism is now. And the burden is on you to clarify your stance.”

What do y’all think of this? Does Zionism no longer mean Jewish self-determination? Is there a new definition I’m unaware of, or is this just another “good Jew” litmus test?