Question for the men about sex.

I’m sorry if this is the wrong sub for this kind of post. I couldn’t find a better place to ask.

I’m one week out from a 9-year relationship with a quiet BPD woman.

I know it’s the wrong thing to do for my healing, but I had a one-night stand last night. Or I guess I should say I tried to.

Basically, the whole relationship I’ve been made to feel undesirable and like I’m a bad man. So when this woman showed interest in me, I latched onto it. She is incredibly attractive. Like 11/10 got it all going on, an absolute baddie way out of my league. Normally, I have trouble talking to women(I wonder why 🙄), but she initiated everything. She made me feel like a man again just by talking to me. I’m 100% into her.

When it came time to do the deed, I just couldn’t. Mentally, I wanted it so bad, but physically, it just wasn’t happening. She wants to try again, and I understand I have a lot of healing to do, so I’m not beating myself up too badly for failing to perform. She really is great.

My question is, did any of you guys deal with this? This is fairly new to me. My ex was basically a sex addict, and I never really had trouble performing.