I’m a bit uncomfortable with putting all of this out there but I need to know that what I’m doing is right. Like the title says we’ve been friends for 10 years (both 17F) since first grade Sunday school. A lot has happened since then- we both started going to different churches, I moved an hour away, but we were still super close, spent the night together a lot and birthdays and Halloween and stuff. But frankly even though we were both Christians I never felt like our relationship was spiritually based, it was mostly that we liked the same shows, games and music and all, which was fun, and we were very close, just opposites in a lot of ways personality wise. Also note that earlier this year I started a group chat with me, my older twin brothers and her, just for sending reels, but I was pretty inactive. 

At the beginning of June at about 1am she DMd me admitting to me that she liked one of my brothers (22M). I was tired and said the obvious, supportive friendly words I thought I should say given the situation, but I made it absolutely clear that it made me uncomfortable. It made me second guess making that group chat because I had a gut feeling, but I thought she wouldn’t do that to me. 

About a week after this, my grandma passed away very suddenly. It was the first real loss I’d ever experienced and I was not doing well. This was made worse by the fact that I was supposed to go to a concert with my friend and her family the day after. I still went, and had a great time because I knew that’s what mawmaw would’ve wanted, but it was weird to me that, except for a condolence text and quick five minute call from her the night grandma passed, she basically said nothing about it. I wasn’t thinking about it at the time because I was working through a lot and spending time with family leading up to and after the funeral and helping take care of pawpaw for the next month or so and grieving. 

AIO for distancing myself from my best friend of 10 years?