just found out my bf has been using ai chat bots from multiple websites to fantasize about sex with coworkers + his ex.

i have been with my boyfriend for over 6 years. i was helping him do his assignment after he went to work and went into his email to see if i could find an anniversary gift idea for him. instead, i found a subscription for a customizable ai bot website.

i logged into the website and found dozens of chats spanning our entire relationship. there were chats with games and show characters, celebrities, but worst of all, his coworkers and ex girlfriend. he used these chats to play out his kinks with them. there were over 70 chats with his ex, and he uploaded pictures of her to make it seem more “real”.

when i confronted him, he immediately apologized and said he was struggling with a porn addiction. he also stated he only ever spoke to these bots during the months when we were broken up, but i don’t believe him. while i feel empathetic knowing that this is an addiction, i’m beyond upset and disgusted at the revelation. i told him he needed therapy and i needed space.

i’m not sure where to begin with unboxing my emotions. i’m not sure if this counts as cheating, but it definitely feels like it. i could use some advice from anyone who’s experienced/is experiencing this and found a way to reconcile.