seriously, what has happened to dating & men???

i (24F) don’t know if this is my own personal experience or a universal one for girls in their 20’s, but my friends and i are having the same difficulties. i am about to end a relationship, and the thought of having to start all over is not appealing at all. this is my second relationship, and both had opposite issues with them. my ex was really smart and had a good career going for him, but was so mean to me. my current partner is nice, but has 0 drive or motivation. both messed up so many times, i’ve been hurt so much i can’t even count. now me, i have a lot going for myself. i have high standards for who i will settle down with and start a family with, i come from an extremely broken home and don’t want to put my kids through what i went through as a child. i have a good career, went to a great university, make good money, am kind, smart, strong, empathetic, love trying new things/have hobbies, im in good shape, am attractive, can cook and so much more. i work 50-60 hours a week, donate to the homeless, just applied to foster children in poverty, have great friends, and am on track to break 6 figures by my middle 20’s. anyways, enough about me.

i dont know what happened to men. they all became such wussies. they can’t “provide” as they say they do, half the time they don’t want to work and are lazy, don’t workout or take care of themselves, do NOT pay for anything, 0 chivalry, cannot provide emotional support or any support whatsoever, and are so brain rotted & addicted to porn, sex and jerking off. like what the actual fuck. they expect to bag a 10/10 woman who’s attractive, works, cooks, cleans and tends to their every need when they hardly work 20 hours a week, play video games, sit on their ass & demand sex after you come home from working 10-12 hours a day. meanwhile they live with mommy, pay 2 whole bills, and will tend to her every need and put everyone before you & your relationship.

i really do not ask for much, i want a 50/50 relationship at minimum. i want a normal life, normal house, 2 kids, maybe a annual vacation, and a half decent person???? someone who works 40 hours a week, makes a decent living, is kind and puts the needs of our relationship first, doesn’t disrespect me, and is a good person. why can’t i find this anywhere? i am giving up on dating and relationships. why would i settle to be with a man when i can just do everything myself now? women are allowed to work now & make our own money, there’s is absolutely 0 reason for us to date men anymore. shit, we can even have kids on our own now!!!

have any other women in their 20’s have a similar experience to me? does it get any better? i was thinking about dating older, but I’m not hopeful that anything really changes for a man slightly older than me. ugh, i’m so over it. i’m just gonna live with 15 cats and become a crazy cat lady🤣🤣