Is this part of evolution?

I might be overthinking this, but does anyone else ever see findom as a kind of realignment of evolution? For a lot of us subs, the thing that turns us on is objectively not good for us as men, financially or emotionally, and yet that danger is exactly what makes it feel so powerful. It almost mirrors a cuckold scenario where arousal comes not from winning but from losing, yielding, being replaced, and choosing surrender over control. It feels like a kink that flips the instincts we were built with.

I am curious if others feel that same tension, that the kink hits so hard precisely because it contradicts what we are supposed to want. It can feel like a rewiring of desire itself, where giving in becomes the whole point. Does anyone else experience it that way?