Flyaways and breakage

My hair since having a baby 8 months ago makes me want to pull a Brittany 2007.

My previously straight hair now has these weird wavy kinks in it, but there's also so many fly aways and broken pieces as well as baby hairs growing in the front pointing straight up.

I was air drying consistently but now brush and blow dry right away. My hair is almost always in a pony tail/bun or clawclip because of my grabby baby.

What can I do to help with the breakage? I keep seeing don't brush wet hair but then it's knotted and tangled. I see don't blow dry but then it's wet for 24 hours. I'm broke and just want my old hair back!