Advice getting back into the dating scene.

Obviously this is a post asking for advice on getting involved with the dating scene or putting myself out there and id like to know how you people had success in your life or at least in your mental state. Ive had multiple long term relationships before all which at lest lasted a year and a half. Always felt like something was lacking and now that im older id like to find that specific person for me that i actually do click with in the ways i want. I like a partner with style, i want her to be motivated and be working on herself or the things she has interest in, and i want an active experimental sex life. Id also like her to be healthy, and have the body type im after. But to me, this seems reasonable. Its the body type i personally prefer, its the pursuit of growing as a person that i feel is the bare minimum, and her sense of style i think is a common hobby we would both have. Is this all too much to look for in someone? And why does it seem like other people are finding what they want but not me? Is there something about my view on it thats wrong? Why havent i been able to find this person already? Are these types of people just already partnered up and married off so im too late? What happens with this search when i turn 30? Should i just toss out the idea that ill find someone if i refuse to settle or is it just not looking thats the biggest part? I already uninstalled social media apps to focus on myself more and thats something that was recommended to me. I think sometimes its just where im looking that isnt working out so i started trying to go out to places where the opportunity would present itself, and i dont waste time looking too hard its just that i noticed im left out of the winning circle of finding that person. Im only 2 years into being single and i dont want to take 4 more years before i meet someone and then take a couple years to develop trust enough to start a family. I feel like i just need to learn how to accept being alone and let that sink in more than searching any more than i already have.