Stranger giving out my address
I was chatting with this guy on sniffies, trying to plan a threesome with my fwb. At first I was hesitant because I had a bad feeling, but I read through the chats he had with my friend too and he seemed really normal and brushed aside the bad feeling. Gave him the address and he said he was on the way. Well, someone else showed up. I didn’t realize he didn’t look like his pictures until he was inside because it was dark outside and he had a hoodie on. He came in and immediately started undressing. I stopped him and told him he had to leave because he didn’t look like his pics.
He didn’t say anything just sorry and started dressing. Once I got him outside (roommates were home) I (regrettably) shoved him and asked if he thought it was funny to catfish and get into someone’s home pretending to be someone else. He started fumbling and grabbed his phone and said I didn’t look like the pic either. The profile that sent him my address, was the same profile I sent it to.
I guess he was fine going through with it, not to toot my own horn but I’m conventionally attractive and fit. I profusely apologized for shoving him and told him I just was scared that I thought he was catfishing us and pretty mad he wasted our time. We both talked about how shitty it was for everyone and he left. He said the guy told him it was open door and to walk in - but he waited outside to be polite.
5 minutes later another guy showed up. I explained someone was giving out my address and to please leave. He came back - 5 minutes later - asking for me by name. Saying one of my roommates named “my name” told him to come back. I told him to leave or I was calling the police - that I already explained that someone was doxing me and regardless of what they say it is my place and I’m telling him otherwise. He left and messaged me on Grindr apologizing.
Then my neighbor messaged me on Grindr - who has hit me up a number of times and knows I’m not interested. Saying someone sent him my address for an “open door orgy” and to walk in. I then made my profile pic on both sniffies and Grindr a note saying I wasn’t hosting, and please read my bio. And no one else showed up after.
It’s scary that he gave out my address not just on sniffies but Grindr too. I reported the account on sniffles days ago and emailed them twice but it’s still up. Luckily nothing further happened but I’m still rattled. Has anyone else been in this situation? I definitely learned my lesson not to give out my full address but I don’t know what else I can do against this man to get him off the platform.
Posted Dec 1, 2025, 6:51 PM UTC