[M4F] Psychology of sex and modern dating (serial monogamy, jealously, hot past, cheating, casual sex...)

I love discussing and chatting about those taboo topics that most people deep down agree with but don't say out loud. There are so many interesting and seemingly contradictory things about sex.

For example, for many women the hottest, best, or most intense sex of their lives you would assume would be with the guy she 'settles down with...'. After all that is their chosen life partner. But for a lot of women it might of been a kinky ex who really knew her body, or just a FWB/'situationship' that for some reason she found so attractive. Women often feel a lot of pressure to only be into the 'emotional' sex with guys they really like, so when they find themselves fantasizing or even fucking guys they might not like or even hate, it seems so taboo. Especially when it's for shallow reasons like the guys body, his size, how cocky/dominant he is... it's so fascinating to see a long-term 'forever' couple and to think the best sex she had was with another guy she could barely stand. It's strange that the healthiest/best relationships are often not the best sex.

When it comes to monogamy, cheating is the greatest sin. Usually it's said because it's breaking their trust and lying... but i suspect the biggest reason is actually the jealously. Would most men/women feel better to get a text about needing to explore more and wanting to take a break, and that same night learning their ex is now having mind blowing sex with someone they can't compete with in bed? I suspect it would feel pretty similar to cheating. What's fascinating about cheating is how common the fantasy is, whether that's an explicit kink to find cheating hot (the jealously, betrayal, the naughtiness of how wrong it feels and so right, having someone hotter, bigger, better...) or just fantasizing about other people or situations. Like most guys will watch porn, looking at women whose job is to be hot and most women never hope to compete with in terms of looks. Women too fantasize but usually takes a less visual form, but none-the-less crave another man (or fantasy creature) inside them rocking their world in a way their boyfriend never could. It's fascinating that it's both incredible common to fantasize of other people and even get off to it, and yet also the biggest taboo in a relationship.

The past is another interesting topic when you really think about it, all the euphemistic language and down playing used. Like when a girl says she had a 'fling' for a bit with some guy she's trying to keep it light and not give it the full weight of what was actually happening. Like all those nights she spent on her knees for him, on all 4s for him moaning and screaming his name, maybe even having some firsts with him like creampies of facials (maybe things she will never do with a BF). It's such a touchy subject for most people and for good reason, most people can't handle knowing their man was fucked a girl who with a body you could only dream of having, or their girl was fucked by a greek god with a dick that made her cum in ways she hasn't had since.

For me personally, I find these kind of these very hot and fun to chat about. Love hearing different perspectives, ideas, experiences, fantasies... whatever it is! Maybe you have a man with a serious sexual past and makes you jealous and kind of hot, or you've had a past yourself you'd never tell your man.