I am a human with BPD and have never had a healthy relationship, and now I do

Let me tell you everything he does is so HEALING it’s so strange to not get blamed when I have a panic attack, or to be treated with such respect, adoration, and kindness. To be wholeheartedly supported to the greatest extent! for my love languages to be matched! To be listened to, and heard to the greatest degree-even on days where I feel a crazy he makes me feel grounded, and sane. I didn’t know love could be like this. All the things I never thought a relationship could be like..he just IS. Naturally. It’s only been 3 months, I’m aware honeymoon phases exist, but I’m genuinely stoked to continue dating this person. Not a day goes by where we don’t express a desire to be close to each other. We don’t fight. Just communicate when something isn’t working. Yes, that is hard and emotional most times but it’s always brought us closer together. No blaming, no shaming, just a desire to reconnect.

we were very close friends before dating, and went on a road trip together to LA, where I realized the compatibility was undeniable..and he confessed to me. This is coming from someone with BPD and who has dealt with abusive relationships for years..and it doesn’t all melt away instantly or anything, but I can see myself healing from my traumas slowly-and he’s so supportive of that. Anytime I’ve had a trigger, it’s been talked out and he HEARD ME. All I want to be is better for him, and I do everything in my power to make that reality because I never want to apply my old way of thinking to this beautiful gem of a human. That is HARD when all I’ve learned is a foundation of toxicity.

Let me tell you I was so sure I’d have to accept that all men would cheat, manipulate to some extent, and not match the level of love that I tend to give. It’s not all sunshine and rainbows, it’s real, and raw sometimes because we both have triggers, but God do we make it work in a way I just didn’t know it could.

He’s my best friend, and my love. And I’m so happy and thankful every day to have him in my life.

Anyways, have an amazing day everybody. Just thought I’d share.