What do you guys to do connect with others?

You're really good at it and natural; when I talk with ENFPs I feel like I am always connected with them, it's easy to talk and to listen. Try as I may I can't figure out how to do it on my own though when it comes to acquaintances and new people. I can just sit there for an hour trying to think of something to think about and wonder about and talk about, and still fail lol. xNTJ.