Some help needed
Funny, I couldn’t come up with a good title. But I have a few questions about dating a trans woman. I would like to be more understanding and knowing what’s going through her mind. Let me explain: (big story, sorry!) 2 years ago I met a trans woman online on a dating app. We chatted a lot. Followed each other on Instagram but we never had a date. And after some time we stopped talking. 4 weeks ago she came back in my mind and I decided to send her a message. We started talking again and then she told me she was actually recovering from a surgery. She now has breasts and I’m super happy for her :) After some talking I asked if she was up for meeting someday. And she was! But of course she first had to recover from het surgery. Something I completely understand. I knew she needed lots of weeks to recover from the surgery and I told her I had no problems with waiting. We talked a lot for 4 weeks. Until yesterday she became very quiet. Today she told me how sweet and kind I was for her. But she noticed she couldn’t give me any of that. She felt she wasn’t ready to be romantic because she said: “without my hormones I have bee hormonal and this made me realize things”. I can only respond respectfully, so I did. I told her it’s okay and I have no problems on waiting until she feels more comfortable. She said she just wanted me to know it. But she didn’t want me to lead me on because she now has other priorities. She said we can still be friends and someday meet. I completely understand that! She had a lot on her mind and she is still recovering from her surgery. But I am full of questions. I’m genuinely interested in her. I’m always very respectful to her to show her that I’m serious about her and me. But now I don’t know what to expect. I know I need to take it easy in sender her messages. But how does all the hormones work? What does it do with you? How long does the recovery from her surgery take? I want to ask all these things to her, but I don’t want to overwhelm her with all my questions. Although I mean it all friendly and supportive. Are there any tips for me on what to do? Or did she secretly dumped me?
Thanks in advance. And if there are any questions I answer them asap!
Ruben
Posted Dec 1, 2025, 7:00 PM UTC