Do any other women feel extremely undesired and taken for granted in their long term relationships?

(Please bear with me, English isn’t my first language) I have been with my partner for a few years and he’s my first boyfriend. We’re young but he’s older than me. Things have never been perfect, as most relationships aren’t, but I’ve always been the one to give the most, sacrifice the most and strive to better both of our lives.

I feel like I’m the capable one in the relationship, and find myself often doing things that would benefit both of us on a consistent basis without even having to be asked, yet everything he does feels kind of like a self serving effort and he only acts with both of us in mind when it’s convenient and isn’t too out of his own way. I’ve done things that have taken me all day, worked hard and busted my ass at the mere thought it might put a smile on his face; only for him to walk through the door with barely a thank you, just complaints about inconsequential things. It feels as though I’m constantly having to navigate with a man who feels entitled to unpaid labor and doesn’t have the independent thought to balance the scale and do his part without request.

This translates to our sex life too. I only ever feel like I get sex when I initiate or the once in a blue moon he’s actually in the mood. I’ve asked countless times if he’s depressed, watching porn or anything else. He reassures me he’s fine and he just doesn’t like to have it as much as me. I’ve communicated that I have an extremely high sex drive, and he’s acknowledged this with very little change.

I know that it’s odd for a woman to be in the position to be asking for the man to do more providing, have more sex and be more dominant and lead the relationship more; but it feels like I’ve consistently had to ask for all of these things and it’s coming to a point where I’m really tired of it.

It’s to the point where I fantasize about my ideal man, I’m watching edits/thirst traps on TikTok again and I’m constantly debating on leaving him. So many people have told me to but we live together and it’s a bit more complicated because I have no living family. I’d love to hear some insight from ladies going through similar experiences