Feeling unrepresented in the lesbian community because of height and stereotype.😔

Hi everyone.I’m not even sure how to start this,but I’ll try to put my thoughts together the best I can. I’m queer,and lately I’ve been feeling really unrepresented in wlw spaces especially on TikTok,social media,and even in books, shows, and fan content.It feels like there’s always the same dynamic:the taller girl is expected to be dominant, masculine, confident, and basically the “top stereotype,” while the shorter girl is always tiny,cute,soft, and super feminine.It ends up feeling very heteronormative, and honestly it makes me uncomfortable.

I barely ever see the reverse: a short girl being extremely dominant, or a tall girl being really cute, gentle, or soft. And because of that,I keep feeling like I’m being pushed into a role I don’t identify with at all.

For context,I’m 5’7 not extremely tall, but where I live,that’s still pretty tall for girls.And sometimes, just because of this height difference, I feel like I’m automatically expected to be the“masculine”one, even though I’m not masculine.I feel this pressure even when I don’t want to.And I hate it, because I actually don’t care about my height,but seeing the same stereotypes everywhere just amplifies my insecurities.

Even when I look at butch–femme stuff,it feels exaggerated like the butch has to be 6ft and the femme is 4’11.And in BL or mlm media it’s even worse:the CEO is always 300 meters tall and the other guy looks like a child.It’s just exhausting.

I know I’m young, and I know part of this is probably me overthinking or watching the wrong content. And maybe I am saying dumb stuff if that’s the case,feel free to tell me I’m just looking in the wrong places.I don’t want to spread misinformation;I just want to understand why I feel so unrepresented.

So basically: If anyone has recommendations for books, shows, movies, anything where the dynamics are more diverse tall soft girls,short dominant girls,wlw without height stereotypes,or just healthy wlw stories that aren’t heteronormative I would really appreciate it.

I just want to see two girls being in love without being forced into “roles,”you know?And I want to stop feeling like I need to fit into a box that doesn’t belong to me.

Thanks for reading.And sorry if my thoughts are messy I’m still figuring myself out😭😭😭.I really feel like I'm talking nonsense.😭😭