Intimacy with WS?

For those who are in the process of or who have successfully reconciled, when were you able to be intimate with your spouse again? We are in the very early stages of reconciliation and they are doing the work and being pretty great. I’ve been wanting to be intimate (we had a pretty decent sex life until dday) but when I think about it my mind shifts to thinking about them and how the APs lips were the last on WSs. It makes recoil and ruminate. I am in IC and MC - I am really trying to not let those images take up space but it’s so hard and I don’t want to be fake (to myself or to my WS). Does it get better? When does it get better? How do you know you’re ready? Obviously interested in hearing BS perspectives but also from WS in terms of things I can’t quite consider given my perspective (or things you did to help your BS with this issue). Thank you.