She revealed traumatic history after our first time now I’m questioning how to go forward with it

I 35M started dating this girl 35F a month ago and she came over last night. It had been a while for both of us. 1 year for her and 2 years for me after both being in 10+ year relationships with 2 kids each but it was a great night and didn't feel akward at all.

She's a very shy person and what I thought was just her being an introvert I think is actually just her having some general anxiety. We have talked loads on the phone but in person she hadn't really warmed to me but there was lots of chemistry there in terms of touching and cheekiness. In the car for example grabbing my hand and putting it on her leg after the dates, etc.

I found out last night after the post-sex talking that she's really into light BDSM like tying up and a bit of choking, hair-pulling etc which I'm totally fine with. Given her quiet demenour I was really surprised but I guess it's the quiet ones you have to watch out for eh!

After the sex chat we started talking about past relationships. It turns out she was abused as a kid by her Dad, then got married to a guy 25 years older than her at 19 for 4 years and had to escape to a refuge thing and an injunction was put against him. Then the last guy she was with for 12 years was just a complete knob, not physically abusive but verbally and just a really lazy person who sponged off her and lived with his parents still after 2 kids.

I'm just now a bit concerned, we are still really early and do match sexually but given her past and the fact she likes this BDSM stuff I don't know whether I feel right doing it even though we both enjoy that stuff. I also thought she might talk a bit more with me today in the car dropping her off but she still seems to akward around me when we talk.

I know the answers and advice here are going to be to talk to her which I know I will have to do but just don't know how to approach it. It's still so early to tell if this is going to be a serious thing but I think she's really into me and I don't want her thinking I just used her for sex. I also don't want to keep seeing her just because I feel really bad for the life she's had. Wondering if I should just keep seeing and talking to her but maybe just stay away from being intimate until I get to know her better? If I knew about this stuff before we had sex I probably would have waited longer before having her do that with me too.