AITAH for not enjoying the time I spend with my parents.

(30F) I try to bond with my parents but ever since they allowed my sister in law to invite her family to my private 30th birthday dinner at my parents house, things have just not been the same. That event made me realize how little my family knew me or how little respect they had for me, my parents could have allowed me to invite my intimate friends and instead let my sister in law invite her family. I’m at an age where I don’t have any similarities to my parents, I enjoy puzzles, they do not, I enjoy working out, they do not. Etc etc Everytime I go over their place they rather talk about other people rather than know how my career and goals are going. They also always ask me to translate/ do online work for them/ or help them with something around the house as I am about to leave. Idk am I the a**hole?