Is My Husband Too Hard On Our 18 Month Old?

I need help because I can't decide if I'm too soft or if he's too hard. What is an appropriate way to speak to an 18 month old who is whining? I definitely wouldn't say that she whines excessively, just the right amount for a girl her age.

My response when I hear her whine is to say, "hey what's up girlfriend?" "what's going on whiny pants?" Something alone those lines - I would describe my tone as... Playful but unconcerned. I see what's wrong and either help her with what she wants after I have her say "help mama", or I say "Sorry kiddo we aren't doing that right now" to which she usually whines one more time, gives me a hug, and changes course.

My husband's response to her whining is to come over to her and scold her, he says something like "that's enough" or "this behavior needs to stop" in a very stern voice, and he'll hold her and not let her down until she stops crying (he says she's throwing a tantrum).

I should also mention that most of the time (at least when I'm around) she does NOT want to interact with him. He'll come to pick her up and she'll run to me and hug my legs, and when I say "hey, go give your daddy a hug!" She starts crying and tries to get away. I feel like this is because so many of their interactions are just him scolding her and forcing her to be held when she doesn't want it.

SO - Am I too soft? Is he too hard for 18 months? He's saying that it's just not okay for her to be all whiny but I feel like she's still so little and needs more gentle redirection.

Please help!