Relationship challenges
I met a Dom leaning Master it’s been going on for almost 5 months now. We met once briefly and have been doing online since October. In addition to being his subslave, I can also serve as his personal assistant for his global agriculture business. Original plans were meeting every month or next meet once I can do four weeks with no mistakes, but we’ve taken two pauses (October and November). He says I mess things up most of the time with my communication. Although we’ve only ever texted, never called or FaceTimed so he can tremendously do better, which leads me to this pause for December. December 1st was a new start and now December 2nd this happens and so quickly he does this.
This is the exact conversation:
Him: Draft notes "Limits", please. Me: I just put the first things that came to mind Sir Him: I've read it ... Explain vagina presentation point a bit more... Me: I made update Sir Him: Does it mean you don't send your vagina videos? Me: I prefer that yes Sir Him: What do you suggest instead of them? Me: I don't have any suggestions Sir Him: That represents your sexual submission. That means you refuse that. Me: I'm thinking videos can pause for now and photos can slowly become regular Sir Him: I'm afraid this is not acceptable. But... As voluntary nature of sexual submission is important to me... we should pause it again till you feel it safe. Him: I lost my last hope it will ever work with you online. Go back for waiting for in person. Me: Are you okay? Him: I am Me: I'm thinking then videos with face in it can slowly become a regular thing Him: I don't think it would work this way. You can't put something among hard limits and can revoke an hour later. Me: “Draft notes "Limits", please." Is this not a draft to see what is acceptable and can be talked about? Him: No. Limits are more serious things than try and catch. If you put something to hard limit, than means you walk away if not accepted. Me: Overall limits list: Vagina Presentation Videos (more of a soft limit meaning l'm uncomfortable sending these clips especially with face) Body & Hair Care Aid (maybe leaning no, I haven't tried) Human Toilet (bodily fluids except semen) (absolutely no) left on read
I don’t know what else to do. I feel like I can’t go but where exactly am I? How should I move forward?
Posted Dec 3, 2025, 1:29 AM UTC