Has anyone ever been discovered by both sides in their affair?

Hello, I am trying to see if anyone here got discovered on both your side and then AP’s side and still kept it going even after discovery? What was the stopping point. How?

My situation was just that, it blew up on my side, husband found out everything. He told his wife and then asked me to leave. I didn’t leave out of fear for kids. AP broke NC by contacting me on several encrypted numbers and I finally responded and got sucked back in for months. Almost divorced my husband, was legally separated.

I realized he was making amends with his wife while coaxing me out of my marriage and but still wanted me as an AP (he told me he was leaving but I felt in my bones it wasn’t true). Wasn’t cut out for it so after 2 years total of the affair, I completely cut it off and am wondering who else has a similar situation and what was the outcome? What is the point in keeping me? He said it was the only way he could keep me but I asked if he was a cake eater and he said no he just wanted me. I know. Hot mess and we suck! It’s over for good and I truly am working to heal all parts of myself for my family. Both AP and I are married with Kids. I guess I just find it cake eaterish and need to confirm you truly can’t be deep in love with two women at the same time. I need to get over this MESS!!