Curious

Ive posted on here quite a bit and read many stories. I read about toxic behaviors, bad relationships and the struggle to move on. The pain and longing for the abuser. I am no different than you. But I am curious to know what first attracted you to your nex?

Mine came of shy, innocent, sweet, helpful and friendly. He shared about his bad relationship before me and how she was "crazy, an alcoholic and ised to beat him" then later in the relation he shared wounds from childhood. These things made him seem like a victim and I felt for him. It softened my heart. Although physically he wasn't someone I normally went for and in all honesty if I hadn't have been vulnerable when I met him, I dont think anything would have happened beyond a friendship. But that is gow it all started for me. I was pulled in by his boyish charms, shy innocent guy who got involved with a "toxic" girl. He mad it easy to confide in him. He was very attentive with constant contact. I had never experienced that before and it created a false sense of intimacy through technology. After this you know how the story goes bc you lived it in your own way.

But Im curious did yours hook you with grand guestures and confidence, or by being sensitive and shy, a shoulder to cry on, someone who acted like they were emotionally mature and available. Was its looks and status or maybe money and career. How did you get hooked?