Should I confess again?
I know I’m pretty much blinded at this rate. I fell in love with this girl one year ago but I didn’t confess until recently. The day of the confession we had a few drinks with friends I was slightly tipsy but acted pretty normal, and assured her that I was normal and cautious what I was doing.
Basically i gave her a long hug and during that hug I told her I really appreciated her I really really liked her. FYI she didnt know I was bi sexual so I take it she didnt know I was meaning it romantically. After telling her I’m very honest about liking her. I asked if she could be my girlfriend and I’m serious about it. Without any hesitation she said yes (taken that she thought it was friendly) she also asked if I could be hers…. Of course at that moment I said yes thinking it was real. I just wanted to clarify that I kept saying I was honest and I’m serious about it but I don’t think she got it the way I wanted it to be? She’s oblivious about it? After that night I went home thinking she was my girlfriend…. Honestly embarrassed now. I basically just texted her like I usually do. We met up like almost everyday because there were plans made already and we also go to volleyball together. The texting later felt off so I wanted to double check. So I basically confessed again being 100% sober. I told her I had feelings for her and I was serious about it. She’s usually a really shy person so when people confess to her she stutters n basically just in shock. She was like “ahh you’re serious?! hold on a second” after a few seconds she didn’t say anything I immediately said “it’s ok I get it”. I didn’t want her to feel uncomfortable or having to reject me because I knew she’d be uncomfortable in saying it directly so I assumed. She smiled n said “mmm” sort of lines? So I assumed that’s a no already? Then we chatted normally. She is a ISTJ if it helps. Very shy and indirect. Afterwards she did message me and thanked me for being honest she appreciated it and hopefully she didn’t make things awkward but to assure me she’s ok. So I take that is a rejection right?
When she rejects guys, she usually sort of cut contact with them if she’s uninterested or contact less at least. But for me, she at least replied to me once or twice a day? I’m I just blinded? Once or twice a day is so little right for someone who potentially might be interested. She was later on holiday for a whole month but kept up replying me at least once a day we do exchange messages. But I also know a guy who liked her, she rarely replied to him? Or at least not as frequent. She was still ok in seeing me but she wasn’t comfortable seeing that guy friend. They met roughly around the same time as me. Is it just because I’m a girl so she’s more comfortable? I can also tell that she was super surprised when I told her I had feelings for her. As mentioned previously she’s a really shy person and doesn’t initiate in general but if a shy person has feelings for someone surely it’s still obvious to see right? I’m not sure. Should I just take that indirect answer and move on or should I confess to her again and ask for a direct answer so I can move on fully? I’m so infatuated by her right now, my mind is just full of her and I can’t do anything properly. On top of I genuinely thought she said yes at the beginning until I asked again she sort of rejected and now I don’t even know what to do. She only replies once a day…. That’s so little for someone to be interested right? Surely if someone’s interested they might want to share their daily life’s with them.
I need your opinions on what I should do. Please help.
Posted Dec 3, 2025, 1:41 AM UTC