Rebuilding Financially After Leaving

Hi, looking for some words of encouragement as I continue my healing journey.

I'm currently in the process of getting my new condo move in ready after living with my family the past 6.5 months. I live in a major metropolitan city and I am unable to afford a detached home on my own.

My ex used to shit talk condos, condo fees, and spending money on renovations in general...all of which I'm currently doing. I'm trying to separate his judgment from my own thoughts and actions but it can be hard.

I find myself comparing my current financial standing to his and the lifestyle I had while I was with him. Rationally, I know I was miserable, lonely and unsafe in that house but its such a shock on the other side financially.

Any words of encouragement would be lovely. Particularly focused on the financial rebuild after leaving and stopping ruminating thoughts.