First IUI and TI?

Hello, all! Feeling a little down, and maybe just hoping for some support. This is exhausting :/

We have unexplained infertility, on 10 months of trying. I do have a shorter 10/11 day luteal phase and my husband does have low morphology.

Last cycle, my (36F) IUI was cancelled (was paying out of pocket that round while waiting pre authorization) because my follicles weren’t growing large enough (did letrozole 2.5 mg), but my hormones were showing that I was ovulating. Therefore, we switched to TI.

For this cycle, I did letrozole 5 mg and got a juicy 24 mm follicle on 11/29 CD 11, I triggered that night (checked my LH and actually was getting a natural surge, too) , had TI a few hours after the trigger.

We had our IUI yesterday 12/1, about 40 hrs after the trigger. Idk if my husband (37M) was nervous or missed the sample cup, but our IUI >1M total motile sperm. Devastating, but we also did have TI during this peak time.

I’m so grateful that we are in this together, but so frustrated that our bodies won’t both work at the same time. Based on the results, it’s looking like we have no other choice than IVF- which is fine, but just another obstacle to handle - and I just don’t know if I can emotionally handle it- yet at least.

Anyone else feel like this or have similar situations?

Infertility during the holidays while also grieving losing your mom is hard enough… I just want to fast forward past the holidays.

Thanks in advance for reading and baby dust everyone’s way ❤️