TW: death. Bf called me subhuman

i have bpd. today, i found out my grandpa had passed away recently. i texted him about the situation, he didnt express any condolences or sympathies, he didnt say “im sorry for your loss” or anything like that. he then changed the topic to a small game we were playing on a different app. i spiraled over that because i had at least expected him to say something like “oh im sorry that youre going through a rough time, im here for you” but no nothing, he told me he was just shocked. well isnt that funny, isnt death always a shock?? who expects that, especially if the cause was an accident? we started to fight over it and spiral turns into a split, next thing you know, i’m insulting him and saying rude things. i wish he would’ve just understood why i got upset, someone DIED and i Just wanted him to at least say something about it. thats not even the worst part. during the time i started to be rude, i made a typo in the midst of my intense emotion. i typed “your” instead of “you’re” and he made it a point to correct that grammar mistake. yeah.. during all of this, he wanted to be petty and correct grammar instead of just apologizing for not saying “sorry for your loss.” that’s literally all i wanted to hear. THAT WAS ALL. i kept saying “you know what lets just get over this” because i knew this would get bad if i kept letting myself go down, but he would agree to end the fight, then bring up how i spammed the crying emoji and how i should “look into that too.” the fight went on, i removed him from apps that we were friends on, everything went to crap. eventually it got to the point where i said imagine someone in (his) family died and this is the crap i did to him. i dont know, he doesnt get it or something. he did apologize but i know it was because i asked him to, or because i made it a big deal. he said we should break up. he said i’m not a real woman, he said i’m not even a real human, he said i’m a subhuman piece of sh*t. he said im a subhuman woman who has bpd and npd. i dont get it, its my family member, how did it come to this. i am trying to keep myself away from harmful decisions so i dont mess up my body like i did before, ive struggled with sh, i dont want to go back to that, but he just called me the things he knew i struggled with such as gender dysphoria and even species dysphoria i always felt like i am too ugly to breathe on this planet and the person closest in my life just solidified it