Scared to death of getting somebody pregnant.

I am a 31-year-old male, I'm not some sex stud that's had tens of hundreds of women.. I've had three sexual partners in my life. Didn't lose my virginity until I was 26.

Anyway, like as time goes on, the fear of accidentally getting somebody pregnant grows stronger and stronger and stronger.

First girlfriend was long distance, and I was pretty dog shit about condoms and contraception.. never actually finished inside of her but plenty of precum. That scared me horrifically the first time, and it's a fear that's not left since the beginning of 2021.

I'm diligent with the condoms and everything now, but same time.. it's always in the back of my mind that it's going to break, or it's going to slip off or something like that. I can't even keep an erection half of the time.

The woman I'm with now, I've not even had actual, real deal, PIV sex with.. but I came on her ass, and I'm scared to death that some of it slid down between her crack. Into her pussy. Can't really talk to her about it because I guarantee I'm getting on her nerves. She started her period, probably 45 minutes after...but still. The fear is very strong.

Are there any tips on how to get over this fear? I'm telling you it's a crippling fear. You know other than just stopping sex all together?