Moms with big families… how do you run your household?

FTM here… I’m just shy of 7 weeks, but struggling to figure out how to manage being a mom, wife, housekeeper, friend, etc….

I’m an EBF SAHM and it seems nearly impossible to shower, cook a meal, clean my house… my husband is so supportive and helpful but I want him to be able to come home to a hot meal and clean house.. and a clean wife (hah), but it feels so impossible. I’m lucky if I get one of those done in a day.

I have a Velcro baby and will not let my baby cry it out. Sometimes I can get him to sleep for an hour independently, but most of the time he wakes upon transfer (or shortly after). Baby wearing helps but I’m limited to that option at the moment due to ongoing clogged ducts/ mastitis.. possibly thrush (I know that’s adding to the challenges)…

All that to say, I’d looove to grow my family one day, but how on earth do you do it!? I just feel like I’m failing at something that shouldn’t be so hard. And I know motherhood IS hard- but one kiddo shouldn’t be this challenging right?! Like how on earth did mamas do it before washing machines and dish washers? I’m just so impressed by all that have gone before me, and appreciate all the nuggets of wisdom that any of you would like to share.