How can I be better?

I noticed that I tend to be controlling in friendships (panic when people don't see eye to eye with me in some core matters, wants to impose my way of doing things...) which is pushing people away (not blaming them at all! I would have hated to be friends with me.). I also noticed that I'm so afraid of showing vulnerability (very terrified of being mocked, controlled by the information i share, afraid people will see me as my weaknesses, I'm also oversensitive I guess). I also don't tend to like the same hobbies as the majority of people. I am starting anew. How can I change to get new friends and treat them in a better way? What should I? How can I be around them like the best version of me I imagine in my head?