Men, you can meet real women here. You’re just doing it wrong.

Seeing a lot of “no one replies” or “zero success” posts, so here’s some advice from someone who’s actually on the other side of the screen:

⁠ • ⁠ Have photos on your profile already. Optional, but recommended. It makes it way easier for women to figure out if they’re actually attracted to you or not.

• ⁠Put in actual effort. When you message first, introduce yourself. Age, build, general vibe. Be respectful. If she’s interested, she’ll accept your message request and you can trade pics. And PLEASE, none of that “let me do X to you” stuff right off the bat. Immediate turn-off.

• ⁠Read the room when texting. Not every girl wants to jump straight into graphic sexting. Keep it balance. Flirt, sure, but also ask normal, non-invasive questions. Show you can hold a conversation that isn’t just sex. It makes you stand out more than you think.

Y’all have been texting and now planning to meet? Good for you. Here are more tips.

⁠ • ⁠ Suggest meeting for a quick drink/coffee first. A lot of women would appreciate this. Shows you’re normal and not planning to kidnap them in a warehouse like a true-crime podcast.

• ⁠If you’re going straight to the bedroom meetup, treat it the same way you would any normal hookup. Be a decent host: Act like a human with manners. Respect boundaries. Clean your space. Have drinks or snacks. Maybe some 420 if that’s your thing. CONDOMS. Have them. Not optional. This isn’t a negotiation.

• ⁠Last but not least… AFTERCARE. Even casual hookups feel better when you’re chill afterwards. Offer water, check in, cuddle a bit. Don’t immediately speedrun getting dressed like you’re escaping a crime scene and definitely don’t kick her out like she overstayed her welcome. Basically: don’t treat her like an Uber Eats delivery you ordered at 2am.

The bar is low, lads. Step over it. Or at least try not to trip on it. At the end of the day, it’s not rocket science. Be normal, be respectful, smell good, and you’ll be miles ahead of half the dudes on here.

Have fun and stay clean :)