NSFW: My Butt Plug Fell Out At Dinner

I (35F) went on a date last Thursday with a former Taco Bell coworker (37M). We worked together a year ago and recently started talking again (retro games, Pokémon, old-school millennial stuff). He just felt right, like all green flags, so when he asked me to dinner last week I said yes.

He picked me up, and we went to Jamie’s Diner. Everything was genuinely nice and we had very constructive and easy conversation, lots of laughs, he paid and left a big tip. When we got up to leave he offered his hand to help me out of the booth which was very kind of him. And that’s when the butt plug I was wearing slipped out and hit the floor. It was obviously dirty and smeared with my feces. I’ve never wanted to disappear more in my life.

Without hesitation he bent down, picked it up, put it in his mouth, and sucked the excrement off of it while maintaining eye contact, then slipped it into his pocket like it was the most normal thing in the world. We walked out, he drove me home, kissed my forehead, told me he had a great time, and said to text when I got inside.

I haven’t texted him yet. I’m completely mortified, but I also keep thinking about how he didn’t flinch at all—like nothing about me could gross him out. I can’t decide if that’s the biggest red flag ever or the most accepting thing anyone’s ever done for me.