Wife called me a cunt

Hi all, married with a kid and another on the way. We own a business together and it's pretty high stress with zero time for each other or ourselves. We can't stop the business as if we close it we lose everything. We have had mostly ups for the last 10 years (of relationship, less than a year of business) but she has some anger problems, which perhaps I exacerbate.

I just can't get it out of my head how she squared up to me and screamed at me that "you're a fucking cunt" x2 in front of some of our young staff. I'm trying to rationalize it as pregnancy hormones but it really hurt and I lost a lot of respect for her.

I love her and my family and since then she has apologized for overreacting but I dont feel satisfied with the apology as I feel the overreaction was beyond the pale.

I've become conflict avoidant as I just want a happy life. Since the last incident I've decided to basically just do what I want from now on and tell her to deal with it. That's how I used to be before marriage but since marriage I feel like I gave away my aces up my sleeve (I'm done with this and leaving) as I've made vows and I won't leave.

Does that make sense? What would you suggest? I'm in a relationship where I want to love my wife and I don't want to lose her or the life we've made together but my God she can be so nasty sometimes and I feel like she doesn't respect me as much as she did and I have lost my power to correct her. I feel like taking away her power and saying to myself "I'll do whatever the fuck I want again' will restore that.

Sitting down for another honest conversation is so exhausting. I want to forget it and love her fully again but I'm stuck on this for the past week and keep replaying it.

tl;dr: should I forget about her calling me a cunt repeatedly and accept her apology