He won’t agree to therapy for our child

Divorce will be final in a couple of months. Our 9 year old is handling the divorce and her parent living separately pretty well. But I know she doesn’t have an outlet. We talk about stuff but I don’t think she can with him without being guilted or some type of consequence.

I asked her about it and she would like to do it. I just asked how she’d feel about talking to someone about all of the changes. She said it’s embarrassing. I asked would she like to talk to someone about it that is just for her and no one would know what she says and she said yes.

I reached out to him with a short list of therapist for her and asked him to let me know his thoughts. He said he’d rather do family therapy with the three of us and have her wait to do individual therapy once the divorce is finally because some things may be dependent on it(idk what that means).

What can I do? I can’t afford my attorney right now let alone to bring up yet another thing we don’t agree on. I’m worried about our daughter though and want her to have a safe space.