48M near north burbs Dad type looking for side subs

Mild soft dom (encouraging, no pain) guy in a near north burb looking for guys that want to have a dad-type (goes to the gym, but not a jock) strip them down slowly to ease them into feeling like they don't need to be in control, play with their ass if they'd like, and guide them into sucking a cock. Please provide pics (Clothed ones are great too) and I'm happy to do the same. Married (but open, in ENM relationship) so it's tough to host, but very good with chatting a bit and getting to know each other and what each others' limits, histories, and fantasies are until we can figure something out and are comfortable. And honestly, conversation about fantasies and lives is where most of these things lead - that's fine with me, just ask that you don't flake out if we can determine a time and place. Sometimes it just feels like a relief to talk this stuff out,

DDF, freshly tested, pretty chill.

No experience necessary, and definitely open to conversation beforehand and afterward.