My (30s M) wife (30s F) asked for a break. Not sure how to deal with it.

I'll try to keep it summarized as much as possible.

Together since December 2019. We have kids (2 and 4)

I messed up. I didn't "show up" enough and took her for granted. I was somewhat controlling on some aspects of our lives.

Anyways... it broke my heart have that break. I also had to leave for weeks for training (she told me when I got there...), but now that I'm doing better, I dont understand the "terms and conditions".

What i mean is:

• she wants the right to have sexual intercourse outside of our marriage and not "owe me a thing" (this can go both ways..?)

• she asked me to "show up" during the break. She said "you can touch me, kiss me, who knows? Maybe we'll even have sex" (this is translated).

Does that mean I have to act like I would had there been no break? I feel like it's contradictory. I don't understand the idea of a break, to be honest...

I am at a loss at how a break could... mend our relationship ? How could it help reignite what we had?

Tl;dr wife asked for a break. She put "conditions", one of them being that I show up, but I feel like it goes against the principle of said break.