Resigning from my government job due to harassment, retaliation, and mental torture

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I (F) work in a state government office, and a few weeks ago I posted here about the mental harassment I’ve been facing from my acting boss for the past 10 months. He would dump all his work on me, use abusive language, and create a toxic environment. When it became unbearable, I finally filed a written complaint.

Since then… everything has gotten even worse.

I’m now facing open retaliation just for refusing to take my complaint back. My boss’s boss actually told me that this complaint will “affect my future marriage prospects.” I still can’t believe a senior officer said that to try and silence me. Others are threatening that they’ll “frame me” in false cases and make my workplace hell. They’re cornering me, constantly threatening me, and deliberately trying to mentally break me.

On top of that, they’ve started attacking my character by linking my name with a coworker for no reason at all. It’s humiliating and disgusting. It feels like they’re punishing me just for not quietly tolerating months of abuse.

Almost everyone has turned against me. People who know I’m good at my work are now pretending I’m incompetent just to stay on the “safe” side. I genuinely don’t understand how standing up for myself has made me the villain.

Right now, I’m completely exhausted. I’m seriously resigning. I know it’s a government job that many people would kill to have, but the mental toll, threats, and isolation have drained me completely. I just want peace. I can’t function in a place where I’m constantly scared, humiliated, and gaslit.

There’s no support from senior officials or head office. They’re still forcing me to do extra work with zero support. Earlier, I did most of the extra work willingly because I’m active and like being productive—but now, even that has become unbearable. The linking of my name with a coworker is also deeply disheartening.

I’m done sacrificing my mental health for this toxic system. The system never works in women’s favor. Patriarchy won here. I may have lost this battle, but I refuse to lose my peace and sanity for these people. It's a field job and given the mental torture since a long time, I was anyway thinking of resigning. And now, I'm finally done.

Posted Dec 4, 2025, 10:46 PM UTC

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