WIBTA if i said my bff hates my bf

a bit of a backstory: me (24F bi),this is my first relationship with anyone and it’s a guy(33M straight),my bff (29F bi) lives abroad and is very hostile towards him even though she hasn’t met him ever.

story:

Me and my bf are together for a bit over 1 year,we met working at the same company. We hit it off,become friends,fall in love, confess the love,long story short we enter our relationship.

Ofc i tell my bff all about him, and although she’s being supportive of me, she doesn’t trust men,(that’s her thing she’s very untrusting of ppl especially men)so she tells me to have fun and be careful and all that. I brush off her remarks as caution and continue spending my days with my bf as our relationship grows.

Now this is where i am in the wrong, at some point im so focused with him that i don’t call and i don’t text. Not just her but anyone. That lasts about 3 months, im working in this new company at the time and im quite overwhelmed this is my first serious relationship ever but im really happy at the same time that i forget that this is not all my life is. So she ends up being very pissed at me, and she’s right about that, she confronts me and i realize she’s right. I apologize ofc,and i try to be better,she accepts my apology and we move along.

The thing is,ever since that period of time every time we talk on the phone she’s fine until i mention my bf. We can talk hours about our lives and about work staff and her boyfriend,but as soon as i mention my boyfriend, her energy shifts. I will say something funny that he did or said and laugh and she will be like “yeah,but” and always and i mean always find something wrong with that. Even if i have a complaint about him i can never tell her (and i haven’t ) cause she will blow it out of proportion and shit talk him, like yeah maybe we got in a fight about something, we can’t always be happy with each other we are human beings , we fight ,we complain and then we make up. But he can never slip up according to her standards,which is plainly unrealistic. If i do something wrong is valid ,but if he does ,it’s the end of the world,how does that make sense?

(now i understand im being vague but i don’t want to go into details for privacy reasons,just so you know tho,my bf is very unproblematic,and that’s the reason im in a relationship with him i would never date anyone that is not a good human being,or wouldn’t treat me right,man or woman we do have our ups and downs as every couple ofc but we’re adults and we resolve them communicating how we feel)

The thing that really makes me sad is that my boyfriend likes her cause i speak so highly of her. He will tell me if she’s ever in town she can come stay with us so she doesn’t have to pay for a hotel,or sends his regards when we are on the phone (which she gets mad about ,but he doesn’t know) ,or he’ll ask me how she’s doing abroad etc.

i think she would rather i date a girl,idk,her uptightness about him just doesn’t sit right with me,but then im afraid that if i talk to her about it she’ll say something along the lines of “i just want what’s best for you” or something like that. I don’t know,i just wish she would give him a chance cause i really love both of them, but im afraid that even if she met him she wouldn’t change her opinion as she has already made up her mind as to if she likes him or not.

thoughts?