Should I wait for the guy?
Guys I need opinions! đ„șI (F24) matched with a guy (M25) on a dating app a couple of months ago. He was the first guy I ever talked to on the app, I never dated or had a relationship of any kind but we quickly connected on a deeper emotional level. Our conversations werenât shallow â we talked about personal things, feelings, fears, and life in general. Iâve never been in a relationship before, so this connection meant a lot to me. He had a long relationship in the past, but it ended about a year ago or so. He told me he hasnât dated anyone since that breakup, and Iâm the first person he has genuinely connected with again.
His schedule is extremely busy â lots of work, travel, stress â and he cancelled meeting me a couple of times because of that. One time actually i was waiting for him on my bed fully clothes in makeup for 2 hours đ So we never met actually. But still the connection is so strong. He told me though that he likes me, but also said he doesnât want to âjump into somethingâ right now because he can barely make time for anything. He said it wouldnât be fair to me if he could only meet very rarely. He said its a busy period for him.
At one point he told me he hoped I would âfind someoneâ who wonât disappoint me, which confused me, because it sounded like he was pushing me away. I also told him honestly how I feel and that I like him, he was warm and respectful, and said he wasnât rejecting me â just that his life is overwhelming right now but he also likes me a lot. He even said we could keep in touch but he would not want to make things weird for me because he knows presence is required in a relationship.
I decided to give him space, so we dont talk now and its been a week, but Iâm really unsure what to think. We talked everyday when we started talking. And now we kind of said bye, but also i feel like the door is not closed fully. I don't feel like these connections happen everyday so i don't want to just move on. My question:
Does this sound like someone who might reach out again when his life calms down? (Maybe months later) I am thinking maybe i should wait for him. Or should I assume its over? How do you interpret this kind of situation? I never posted anything here so please be kind with me!đ„ș
Posted Dec 5, 2025, 3:17 PM UTC