ppl hate boundaries

i’m a freshman at college and i’m very firm on not having people around me if i don’t want them to be. people confuse my trying to communicate with being aggressive because im black and when i don’t try any further im “pushing them away.”

im standing up for myself trying to have a civil conversation and get accused of yelling and being told i shouldn’t have bought up my feelings about being hurt because the other person can’t communicate…?

someone else is trying to tell my friend i’ve never had a problem with to stop being my friend because i “push all of my friends away” when in reality he’s upset because i wouldn’t let him disrespect me then act like everything’s ok.

i do nothing and still get talked about. i havent interacted with any of them. someone had to come to my room to tell me what was being said when i haven’t talked to any of them in over 48 hours. it’s like i can never win and i feel so stuck. i can’t transfer because i already signed a housing contract for next year.

i’ve tried so hard not to be this loud aggressive black woman that they are making me out to be and it’s making me go insane