DAE seem to have a knack for "sensing" bad people before NT people do?

🫶🏻 Friendships/Relationships

It's a cycle for me:

-I meet someone new.

-Something immediately seems off about them....like my brain is telling me to run away

-I'll brush it off as paranoia/judgement because the people around me say they're nice

-Every. Single. Time. I turn out to be correct about my initial thought.

But I never do or say anything about it, because I don't want to come off as some judgemental butthead. Then it turns out: I was right! This person sucks! Then I feel bad for thinking that. I have a few examples:

-A professor who I met, I felt unsafe in his class albiet he had 5 stars on RateMyProfessor and everyone around me LOVED him. I dropped out a week in. 2 months later? Arrested for committing.....inhumane crimes, to put it lightly.

-A coworker I immediately felt off about....gave him the benefit of the doubt since he was so friendly. He wound up getting fired for harassing staff & clients.

-A boss I also felt unsafe with when I met her. Brushed it off as new job jitters. Wound up being super ableist & would pick on disabled staff.

-A friend of my partner who I felt weird abt when I met him. Also brushed off to make my partner happy. Wound up destroying the friend group by causing drama.

Please tell me I'm not the only one.

Posted Dec 6, 2025, 6:19 PM UTC

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