What do you do if you don’t pass?

I’ve been on T for six years and have tried most of the things guys talk about on the trans men passing sub reddit but not much weightlifting because I have a disability that makes that difficult. I started t late in life, so I guess that’s why my facial construction never changed. I have sparse, fine, platinum blonde facial hair. I am constantly m’amed.

I‘m married and loved, so at least dating isn’t a problem. It’s just hard because I thought I’d be living as a man by now. Instead I‘m closeted. I only tell people I trust.

Is anyone else living like this? It’s driving me crazy. How do you cope with it?