My boss (8) has been very difficult regarding my (1) medical accommodation request

I worked at my company for 1 year before my new boss came on, and my last boss didn’t give me much work to do. At first things were fantastic! New boss is very ambitious and our company is doing more than ever. At her 1 year mark, her superiors warned her to pull back on projects so she doesn’t burn out the team. But has taken on more projects since then, and has had some personal stressors, so now it’s just daily stress on everyone and feels like constantly putting out fires.

I am a 1 - so I appreciate structure and planning (and I’m the admin for our team, and encouraged by boss to do project management) so I’m supposed to help keep us on track with all our projects and team meetings. HOWEVER, my boss has repeatedly blown off our quick pow-wows, rescheduled team meetings, and generally doesn’t have time because her emails take her priority. But then blamed me for our staff meetings not happening.

The big issue is that I had taken on a physical task that needed to be done, and had a 2nd person helping me to deliver boxes. I have mentioned since at least 1 year ago that I have too much work on my plate now to keep up. I planned to take the person who had been helping me and boss said “I CANT SPARE HER” and that I have to do it myself, even if it took me 5 days. I followed up and let her know that I physically can’t do it to that extent anymore (I have an issue with my spine). She accused me of just trying to get out of it bc I don’t like it. I assured her it was due to a medical condition. She asked me to write a proposal for delivery, so I spent 6 weeks doing it and sent it to her and asked for a meeting to review together. After 1 week I asked, and she said she didn’t read it. I gave it another week and asked again, still hadn’t read it. I have talked to her about my condition at least 6 times now and felt blown off each time. Now she says she heard me say “we just shouldn’t be delivering these” which I never said. I asked for assurance that I wouldn’t be responsible for delivering them all in 2026 because I physically can’t and her response was “I have to think about the team, we will have a staff meeting in January to figure it out”. I didn’t feel satisfied with that response so I wrote her an official request for accommodation and let her know i was going to email it to her. She didn’t seem happy and she’s been snappy at me the last few days - telling me “NO, STOP” when I was talking about an idea, shutting me down in a group conversation, etc.

I’m feeling especially vulnerable right now and feeling like she doesn’t care about my health, just results. She’s also been very critical and controlling lately- constantly reminding us to ‘cc her on all our emails. Wanting work completed, but not done without her, even tho she takes 6 weeks of vacation per year.

I’ve researched the 8/1 dynamic so I know how we are similar and a general idea of how she prefers things… I’m just really struggling right now because things have been bad and she has lost that “human” element and is only ever focused on results. My other teammates are two 9s and a 6, so when we have meetings - they aren’t always vocal about their ability to realistically handle something and seem intimidated by our boss (as am I)

Any advice is helpful (except quit lol). The one thing my boss did right is do a pay study to determine how much of a raise to give us (and I just got a really nice pay bump)