Seriously bottoms are gems, just how do you do it?

I tried bottoming twice and believe me the whole time i was crying inside begging for it to end quickly, i felt like a huge dump was about to come out my anus the feeling was soo weird and i hated every second of it! Seriously how do yall bots and verse learn to love it??!! Coz i just cant bro there was no ounce of pleasure for me, but the top repeatedly said how nice and tight i was. But horrible experience for me! I dont think ill try again