Situationship: do I keep bugging them

So I unadded her (it’s actually like my 4th time) and I just send her a request again on snap. She hasn’t accepted but I know she’s seen it. Should I just reach out (have to do it thru her 2nd instagram accnt bc I deleted her number) Light context: she(21F) already has a 2 year old and a bd and I (20M) have been chasing this for like a year now. She’s my ideal but we went to school together and I graduated recently. Obviously this is all toxic and I should leave it but not only am I wondering if this is the only way in 2025 but I’m also wondering if this last time was a bit much since she brought flowers to my graduation. I asked about it after becoming insanely clingy (again) and she claimed it was just for my graduation which set me off because she knows how down bad I am. I still am confused though if it was even just a friendly thing or if she just wanted me to get hooked again before I graduated and gave her that last bit of attention since we weren’t talking just before. I know I’m probably the bigger problem- there’s a lot of attachment issues but she also likes to give the “not ready” “mental health” excuse which I’ve been patient about it.

Can someone tell me (if) I’m getting played