I feel like a complete failure of a mom

I have a 10 week old. I feel like at this point I should have everything together but it has only gotten worse. My baby doesn’t like baby carriers and can only really handle being in his bouncy for a maximum of 15 minutes before getting upset. I try laying him on his play-mat with dangling toys so he can entertain himself but I’m lucky to get 10 minutes of that. I’ve tried just setting him down and letting him cry for a bit so I can at least eat during the day but it doesn’t go well because he will just keep crying for as long as I don’t hold him so I can’t let him do that for long. My house is a disaster. I have enough laundry that it will take days to complete it and I have no clean clothes or towels left to even go and take a shower and feel clean. I never have energy to do anything like go to the grocery store or cook. And I feel like I’m failing my son because he wants to be entertained and I just don’t have the energy to entertain him. I drowning in everything right now.