experience with seeking medical help?

hi! i’m not diagnosed but my symptoms are aligning with vaginismus so i think that i might have it.

can you please run me through the medical process you took and how it was for you so that i know whether it is work seeking medical help or not??

my mum told me that they might do an invasive test like a pap smear and it might make my fears worse and be unhelpful, and that they will just tell me to try fingering anyway so i may as well just try that myself. any thoughts?

i’m female, 18 and first tried tampons around 13 and was crying and couldn’t get them to work. i’ve tried them a few times since and it’s gone half in but wasn’t successful, and was very difficult. i’ve had 2 boyfriends that i have tried intercourse with, so i have given it a go numerous times and every time we try, barely the tip goes in and im screaming ouch and begging to stop, eventually giving up. its exhausting and frustrating, especially when everyone around me seems to be effortlessly having intercourse and i really want to, and my boyfriend really wants to, but it seems physically impossible.

even fingering is really taxing, it’s not enjoyable and it does get to a point of pain that we have to stop. one finger is fine but two is just painful. and i have never fingered myself, ive tried but given up in seconds because it was boring, painful and not enjoyable and just seemed frustrating.

please help me 🙏🙏 this problem is really frustrating me!!!!!