Is it me?

Posting because I have no idea what to do. I’m new to fostering. Got my license & had a 13 year old girl come to be with me days later. When she came into my home I told her the biggest rule was we need to keep anything personal off the ground. There’s a reason I said that. Please just follow.

Everyday it’s a can we go to Starbucks, can I get this, I don’t want to do that and so on. Everything is an argument. She has Fs in all of her classes. I reached out to the teachers and they said that as long as we got them turned in by the 17th they would accept them. I was so thankful. We got home from school I said I need you to sit down and do all of these missing assignments, I’ll help. She yelled at me stomped around and then proceeded to take a 4 hr nap. Woke up and did 2.

Today we went to the mall. We were there to shop for her brother that would be coming to us in a couple of weeks. He wasn’t able to get a Christmas list turned in on time, so they sent it to me. I went ahead and said ok let’s go and try to knock some of this out and we’re going to meet friends at Dave n busters after. First store she needed 3 pairs of pants. When we got home and I said nope they’re for Christmas she threw a fit. Then we were going to look for a dress for her school dance she kept saying I have to find this necklace I’ve always wanted. I kept saying we need to find a dress and get stuff for your brother. We went and got shoes and hoodies for each of them and then we were back to dresses and necklaces. Wouldn’t look at anything but necklaces finally we find both. Great. I say I would like to go to old navy and find some athletic items for her brother. Complained the whole time. Walking to Dave n busters she sees labubus and has to have them. I say no. Guess who got them anyways. We are in Dave n busters I want a drink, ok then suddenly I want dip n dots. I finally give up bc when I say no it’s an argument. They’re out of stock. That’s my fault apparently. So we settle for blue icees instead of water like I was originally asked. We play games sit down to eat dinner. I order fried pickles she’s mad she doesn’t like them. She likes em. We get in the car and she’s crying because I’m mean. Literally got everything she asked for today but I’m mean.

We get home we’re doing great. She comes to me “where’s the tape?” I asked for what. She said she was going to put pictures on the wall. I said I’d rather we didn’t. Threw a fit finally I said fine go ahead.

My dog comes running out of her room with a hair tie and I have to wrestle it out of her mouth. I said hey what have we talked about 100 times? Please keep the doors closed. 2 seconds later she comes running out with chocolate. I wrestle that away. I went and said we talked about all this. She told me none of it was hers. I just stared at her.

My dog is my baby. She has nearly died 3 times for eating things she shouldn’t. It’s my biggest rule.

I finally just gave up. I asked why is everything an argument. She claimed it wasn’t. I know for a fact the last two homes had the same issues with her. I’m trying and I’m failing. I don’t know what to do. I feel like a credit card to her. I don’t think she remotely respects me. I am trying my best.

Can someone just tell me it’ll get better and easier and it’s just that first month of struggling?

Sorry this is so long I just don’t have anyone in my life who would understand I’m hoping maybe someone here can.

Thanks.