Anyone else experience this?

26f here I need advice. REAL advice and to know I'm not alone in this kind of experience. Flash back when I 19yro living with in laws and 21hb. 3mo after my child was born the woman snapped. Extremely possessive of my child. Calling HERSELF mama. I question even a joscasta complex but covert because of the way she would try to interact with hb. Attempted several times to 3rd party our relationship OR straight up sabotage it. You could only imagine gow her marriage is working out for her. Long story short we moved out hb put her in her place. Oh the terror I suffered for 4 or 5 years after no contact. When she could no longer live vicariously through my experiences.

● social slander /flying monkeys ● stolen phones accounts/cars/ put up baby clothes pictures anything she could get her hands on. ● stolen birth certificates, food stamps, wic. Socail security cards all the above EVEN baby pictures of ME I had put up in hb childhood home. ● stalked nonstop like sitting out of our home. This happened several times called the cops on her twice had a restraining order. EVEN moved to a new city for 2 years.

4 or 5 years pass baby is no longer a baby. I bite the bullet for hb and allow her back into the dynamic she understands her place and has gotten lots of therapy for her issues and marriage. Everything seems... fine for now... BUT I'm forever looking at her side ways. Especially of recently.

She calls me every weekend. Wanting to know what we're up to we keep it minimal and don't allow her to visit but every few weeks.

Tonight I post Christmas lights and pictures of my family on fb. We're not friends on fb. 10 mins later a text. "Pictures please - of my family - or my baby girl."

OOOoooo the blood rushed to my face so fast being triggered by how she acted like a jealous ex gf when my child was first born. All of those repressed feelings flooded back. Then proceeded to get on her Facebook and post a picture of me and my child. It's not a picture of my face it's a picture of me with my child from behind. It may seem small like no big deal but she has dyed her hair my color multiple times. Always tries to make comparisons while my hb shuts that down almost 24/7. Constantly ripping pictures off pintrest to post of random women she pictures herself as. I'm really wondering if she is continuing this type of behavior visualizing herself with my child and my life experiences with my family.

I have the comfort of me and hb are on the same page but this woman is terrifying. The way she acts twords me and especially around my child. Am I over reacting or ? If I had it my way id be okay with never seeing the woman ever again in my life. Anyone else deal with these passive aggressive behaviors? how do I handle this with grace? Dealing with older women in their 60s attempting to live through you acting like a highschooler ? I'm not above telling it as it is BUT with that said I'm trying to keep the peace. Hb says don't respond when she acts like that.