She's too busy for me now.

I've dated this girl for 5 years. At one point she'd call me more than 6 times per day. When we were apart, she'd text me every hour to check up on me.

Fast forward to now, she rarely calls, just sends me voice messages. If 5 hours goes by I'm the one who checks up on her. I feel now like I'm the first to call, I'm the first to text, she never initiates anymore.

I'm tired of being the last thing she picks up when I used to be the first.

It's hard to deal with the silence. What should I do stoics? I've watched hundreds of AI videos on YouTube telling me not to beg for validation, chase, and I was told to build myself silently.

I want to know how do I become this man that no longer depends on her validation? How do I become stoic?

I want be the number 1 person in her life again. But if it's not possible, I want to know how to be strong and not depend on her love or the love of any woman.