My “friend” is just plain rude and doesn’t respect me

I have a friends we have been friends forever I’m in my 20s so is she. Mainly the biggest reason we’ve had contact. What is this called when a person does this- I got pregnant and she did congratulate me but right after that it was I hope one day I get pregnant I want kids so badly like what am I doing wrong why don’t I have kids another example I got engaged she said congratulations that’s it then later that day followed up with I hope I get married one day so so bad. Then it was my birthday happy birthday again followed up with I hope I get married and have kids one day. I can’t even enjoy the thanks I get or the congratulations because it’s always followed up with a huge paragraph on her life so I respond to it and completely ignore what was said to me and there’s no more enjoyment. Also lots and lots of back handed compliments. Like she does hair and sent me a vid of someone saying I don’t mess with people who don’t support me and go to other people for their hair stuff. Which I do and she knows and why do I go to a different person or do box die at home? Because I have spent in total around 1,000 or more on my hair by her and every single day it comes out horrible and it takes hours and hours like 6 hours because she doesn’t see me as a client only as a friend but I don’t get a friend discount but my time isn’t as valuable as a “real” client. Basically I’m done with this friend and I recognize it’s toxic behavior I basically get shamed and called a “bad friend” for growing up and not being a teen anymore and have a family now and a child and “not making time” for my friend and choosing my husbands over my friend well that’s to bad honestly I’m not going to be 30 sleeping over and being able to hang all day long plus money I actually have bills and responsibilities I have to attend to I don’t live a teen life at an adult age. Just a rant but wanna hear if anyone else has had this issue or similar